By: Gabriela Borzachini
I remember coming into college
people would tell me all sorts of things that go on during your college years
and what to expect. Of course my parents told me to be safe because they knew
from experience what happens in college. I heard a lot about how “casual sex”
was very common. I did not really know what this meant before coming here but
now I see it and it is evident. Dating in college is a thing of the past. A
professor of communication, Dr. Crabtree says, ‘”In the 1950s people in college often married while still in
school or immediately after. Today it seems the age of marriage is much later.’”
[1]Times have certainly changed. Most
college students seem to be infatuated with hooking up rather than taking the
time to date someone. Many students feel like they do not have time to be in a
committed relationship with someone but they still want to have that feeling of
intimacy.
What made these new ideas about sex and romance in college
come about? Well our society today is much more open to talking about sex, we
have been more accepting of homosexuality and other sexual orientations, and
our ideas about sex in general has grown tremendously since the 1950s. [1]
While men
often try to push sex on women, women can also be interested in hooking up as
well, instead of having a relationship. Many women in college actually prefer
to focus more on their studies than have a relationship and hooking up is a way
to have the best of both worlds when it comes to sex and romance. Many times
alcohol comes into play when casual sex happens. Many women find themselves
more likely to say yes to any kind of sexual activity when they have had a few
drinks in them. [2]
In the end,
everyone is different. Some people think being in a relationship during college
is the way to go if given the opportunity. Other people prefer to date around
or hook up with someone when they need intimacy. A person could be happy either
way. I know plenty of people that marry right out of high school or continue to
date all through college and are perfectly happy. I know from personal
experience that for myself it is very hard to maintain a relationship while in
college. This is especially true for long distances. I am sure it is just as
hard if your significant other goes to the same school or lives in the area.
Sometimes it might be better to wait till after college when you find a job and
you can settle down. I believe that as long as you are happy then that is all
that matters.
[1] Snoddy, Olivia. "Romance in College: It's
Complicated."The Mirror, Online edition, sec. The Vine, December
07, 2011. http://fairfieldmirror.com/2011/12/07/romance-in-college-its-complicated/
(accessed January 29, 2014).
[2] Taylor, Kate. "Sex on Campus: She Can Play
That Game, Too." The New York Times, Online edition, sec.
Style, July 12, 2013. http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/14/fashion/sex-on-campus-she-can-play-that-game-too.html?pagewanted=all
(accessed January 30, 2014).
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